When it comes to matters of the heart, there are no right or wrong answers. Marriage. Divorce. Love. Hate. The only answers we have come from the strength within.

At the time of your greatest heartache, the instinct to survive carries you. Whether you have a strong instinct or weak one, it carries you through. Often times, I sit and think about all that I have gone through in my own marriage and I don't always understand why I had to walk the path I was given. Then someone young or old comes around and has been torn.

What people fail to realize is that sometimes the people in your inner circle can not give you words of encouragement or wisdom that will not result in more pain. Not for the lack of life experience or ideals that seem inconsequential, but because as with any intimate relationship (friendship or family) when they see one of their's wounded the natural reaction is to strike. As a mother with her young in the wild, when threatened they strike to kill first. In life this is the same.

My incite on relationships has changed dramatically over the years. There was a time that infadelity meant the end of an era. Time has taught me that everyone's path is different and sometimes it takes the opposite sex or your partner longer to find the successful path. Whether it is due to their lack of self fulfillment, esteem, growth, or worth; when someone is not sure of who they are they can not be of any use to others.

When their flaws and misdirection hits an innocent victim of love, it can make or break who that victim becomes.

I was that victim. As was my husband. Many of my friends and family have fallen victim to the misdirection of the unfulfilled partner.

It has been to my pleasure that I have at least been able to help someone in my situation. Whether it has been by a kind word or jesture, my pain has not gone in vain.

For this reason I don't consider the trials my end, only my beginning. I was made and created to love, unconditionally with out pause. But only after learning to love myself.

If these words never reach another know this. Every step you make in life has been for a purpose. Your purpose may not be known to you and may not be fulfilled in ways you expect, but your purpose will always be greatness! It is only what you do with the tools and experiences you have that will make the difference.

This toast is to love and the trials within. Signing off~ Love's Former Broken Victim Now Grown!