Opportunity to Degrade

Trying to find a balance in who you are can sometimes be difficult. Maintaining or increasing your self worth is a struggle that is ongoing and relentless. Many people find their fortunes in the misfortunes of others. While there are also those who would like to see the success be spread throughout and honors be given as such. In my time on this earth I find that most of my life experiences have been worth nothing to most and everything to me.

Does that make my experiences any more demeaning than others? No. Because at the end of the day, the life that you live will be forgotten. Yes people will remember events that you shared with them, but those most intimate successes will not stay here, they go with you. In turn providing another opportunity for someone else to find success.

It is selfish for me to assume that your life conquers are not as great as my own. In many ways, people use your success to demean you and make you feel as though you have not accomplished any thing at all.

At this point in my life I find myself at a crossroad, with a cluster of opportunities to unfold. Albeit some of these opportunities are great there are others that may seem inconsequential to the next person. Yet in still, it is my decision to indulge or nurture these possibilities.

Well on a side note:

I found the word "opportunity" to be most offensive this morning. At work the big boss uses the word "opportunity" in a positive manner. In an effort to obtain the same result others now use this word, in every sentence they say. However, the difference is, when others use the words, their tone implies a sense of disrespect and degredation. Instead of saying, look you are not doing your best and this is where you are not doing so well. It has been replaced with "there is an opportunity for growth." Except whereas I have heard this statement from my big boss put in the most positive of manner, which provides a sense of increase in responsibility and importance of position, when it is simple correction. Others have used the very same stance and made people to feel inferior to them. Therefore, when I heard the word this morning used at a table of my peers, it dawned on me that when people hear this from my peer it will have the same effect as everyone else. i.e. 'I know that you are submitting a complaint about me because the only time I hear the word opportunity is when there is a negative issue being discussed.'

The time when the word opportunity was used in a positive context has simply been dismissed and redirected. What can be done about it?

As I sat at the table and began to voice my concern, I felt the mood shift. My neurotic side had just popped it's ugly little head again. But when a word that has given hope to people in the past is now being used as a term of degradation it seems to produce a feeling of hopelessness. What most fail to realize is that due to the lack of communication between superiors and otherwise, there are some people that hear that term several times a day by different people. Therefore, when I hear the word opportunity being used it is no longer a positive result obtained it is a negative one. Learning how to talk to people is crucial in business and everyday life. And acknowledging people's mistakes without terminating the confidence once felt in a word is possible as well. There has to be another approach.

It would seem that I have heard "opportunity" and "perception" so much that it is driving me mad. Therefore at this time I share 1 of my 6 mad thoughts of the morning!
Signing off~