A conversation with a friend about love on FB
VB: So how do you know if you've found the one? You think about the vows you take. For better or worse, sickness and health, richer or poorer, til death.
VB: If you can honestly say yes, then that is that one.(The Game)
Shadreana Sanders: I got better and worse, sickness (I'll call the Dr. unless you got that ninja) and health (we getting older so more open to health issues I guess but this would be nice)..richer (can you control yourself if you got it made) or poorer (will being broke drive us apart or together, or is the only time you love me when I am broke) til death (I will kill him anyways when he violates..lmao) Love that scene from the Game tho
VB: I feel ya girl. You gotta get all that together.
Shadreana Sanders: Single life looks better and better if that's the case. But IF he exists this time he will be my friend first. Know why I smiile, why I cry. Support my good, and can tell me about my bad. He'll appreciate the woman he has found, and will ne...ver take me for granted. He will remember I love flowers and cards, and forget me nots. He will thank me for my loyalty and take me as I am. Be able to commit to all the vows...better and worse ( and we will survive that together) sickness and health (hope so I am getting up there) richer or poorer (I have been poor long enough, this one will enjoy my better days) til death all I can say is the movie the NOTEBOOK...he will love me enough to want to live and die with me. That's some not all.
VB: I completely agree. You put my thoughts in words. You have always been good at that. Even in high school.
Shadreana Sanders: Most importantly he will love me the way that Christ loves the church...because he will have found his wife and his rib...I won't take him any other way!
VB: Amen.
Shadreana Sanders: Great minds think alike and great women deserve great men. I guess that is why I think I am going to be single forever. I have had bad for so long, it feels like that "he" I desire is non existent. I mean ask a man if he has all his 3's which I DO (APT, CAR, JOB, TIME FOR ME) they can never say yes to all that. What are your goals? Do you have dreams beyond what you have now, and what are you doing to pursue them? What is your credit score, does it matter to you? Simple stuff that is important, because if has not learned the importance of independance and self preservation he can not be the one you need.
VB: True words of wisdom. But wait I say on the Lord. Like we have been taught "HE who findeth a wife, findeth a good thing." So let Gods man find you. He is out there going through the same test as you. Once the Lord has taken both of you on your separate journey's, he will join the two paths to one.
And a sidenote from my friend SD: There is more to it than hunching the weiney...My next wife will not get it until it's time...
Which poses a good thought make sure he can wait for you and you can wait for him in the physical sense that way you know he appreciates and you likewise appreciate the realness of you!
Monday, March 28, 2011
Thursday, March 24, 2011
The Hope of Love
As I lay in my bed, my mind is running at a steady pace trying to figure out the heart of a woman vs. the mind of a man.
It seems as though fate would have you to live and learn until that time comes when destiny will step in and seal that said fate.
I believe the bible states that "He that findeth a wife findeth a good and perfect thing." Therefore running or chasing after the man of your dreams and in many cases nightmare, is not supposed to happen. We often times let fear control our moves and make the heart perform acts that will give us that moment of pleasure, with the attachment of a lifetime of pain.
My mistakes in love, have seemed to put me in a place of hopelessness at one point, however, time and the opportunity to love again has reopened my mind to the thought that same hope that seemed to pain me is there for a reason.
No good thing is easily made. There are steps and processes we must take to ensure the success of anything in life. Relationships and love are no different.
There is an art in sacrifice. Sometimes you have to sacrifice your happiness for the greater good and find your mark on life. Your place in this world to know who you are so when that door represents itself again, you can walk into it with the knowledge of who you are and make for a successful relationship with that him.
It seems that the older I get the more my philosophy on love seems to change. At present my thoughts on love are this: "There is a measure of hope found in love that speaks to the soul. If that hope can ever be broken, that is your cue to recognizing that loves path is not the one that belongs. As long as that hope still lies and he finds your love in the same manner the bridge between the heart and soul can be met. This creates a lasting love, unbreakable by time, space or man."
Because of this thinking, I will continue to get to know who I am as a woman. And once the time is right, my divorce is finalized, and I have lived a life getting to know me for a while..HE WILL FIND HIS WAY TO ME!
Does this mean I will live a life thinking that he is out there waiting on me. NO. This simply means I can enjoy my time on this earth until the reality of who he is comes. Even if it is not my hearts desire. For now, the desires of my heart will be placed in the same way Mary stated, "I shall hide these things in my heart."
Hope is the root of all faith. Which is why I reference hope when dealing with human emotions. Because I put my faith only in God, who knows the master plan. Wisdom is given to those who can take the time to look at the greater picture. This is why in my youth I made so many mistakes. Now that I am coming of age, wisdom must kick in.
I will continue to be myself, make my mistakes, and when he finds me...not only I will see it, but his heart will know "IT IS HER!"
It seems as though fate would have you to live and learn until that time comes when destiny will step in and seal that said fate.
I believe the bible states that "He that findeth a wife findeth a good and perfect thing." Therefore running or chasing after the man of your dreams and in many cases nightmare, is not supposed to happen. We often times let fear control our moves and make the heart perform acts that will give us that moment of pleasure, with the attachment of a lifetime of pain.
My mistakes in love, have seemed to put me in a place of hopelessness at one point, however, time and the opportunity to love again has reopened my mind to the thought that same hope that seemed to pain me is there for a reason.
No good thing is easily made. There are steps and processes we must take to ensure the success of anything in life. Relationships and love are no different.
There is an art in sacrifice. Sometimes you have to sacrifice your happiness for the greater good and find your mark on life. Your place in this world to know who you are so when that door represents itself again, you can walk into it with the knowledge of who you are and make for a successful relationship with that him.
It seems that the older I get the more my philosophy on love seems to change. At present my thoughts on love are this: "There is a measure of hope found in love that speaks to the soul. If that hope can ever be broken, that is your cue to recognizing that loves path is not the one that belongs. As long as that hope still lies and he finds your love in the same manner the bridge between the heart and soul can be met. This creates a lasting love, unbreakable by time, space or man."
Because of this thinking, I will continue to get to know who I am as a woman. And once the time is right, my divorce is finalized, and I have lived a life getting to know me for a while..HE WILL FIND HIS WAY TO ME!
Does this mean I will live a life thinking that he is out there waiting on me. NO. This simply means I can enjoy my time on this earth until the reality of who he is comes. Even if it is not my hearts desire. For now, the desires of my heart will be placed in the same way Mary stated, "I shall hide these things in my heart."
Hope is the root of all faith. Which is why I reference hope when dealing with human emotions. Because I put my faith only in God, who knows the master plan. Wisdom is given to those who can take the time to look at the greater picture. This is why in my youth I made so many mistakes. Now that I am coming of age, wisdom must kick in.
I will continue to be myself, make my mistakes, and when he finds me...not only I will see it, but his heart will know "IT IS HER!"
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